Men are from Mars....

No. No, actually, they're not. Sorry. Opposite sex does not equal strange alien species what is all strange and alien, and/or a bitch/bastard. Try looking at the person you're trying to formulate a relationship with, from a viewpoint of What if They Were Me? What would I want?

Stop looking for codes and sigils and signs and wonders, and just... get to know each other. Stop playing those damnfool games and you'll stop losing them.